Welcome to Chapter 15 of Dan Bennett - The Diary of a Bored Kid!
Hello guys and welcome back!
I came across a quote a while back that today I thought would be quite relevant.
"A Swim is for the body, but a dip is for the soul." - Lucy Lord.
I woke up today, with the revelation that I'm going home today for the first time in a year. Mixed emotions... Can't wait to see my family, can't wait to be home and have some of my families home cooking and to see everyone for Christmas. But there is also the revelation that I'll be leaving a big chunk of my lifestyle behind for a while.
Not exactly sure for how long, but likely it will be a minimum of a few months.
A lot of what I do in my day to day proactively protects my head space, I'm at the point now that I know when I don't do certain things that I'll get stressed or anxious if I don't follow through and do certain activities.
It could be anything as simple as;
Seeing friends, walks by the sea, hanging in my apartment, visiting cute coffee shops, training boxing and Jiu Jitsu, date days and date nights with my gf.. These are just a few of the things that make me tick and for a while I won't be seeing and doing these things!
So I woke up today, and thought what better way to commemorate leaving Boston, than a very chilly, mid December's Sea Dip.
I actually stumbled across the idea from a guy I follow on Tik Tok, who does daily sea dips in the UK every morning before he starts his day.
He made a very good point to be fair and compared it to meditation. He as have I, have tried meditation and it hasn't worked, I'm too ADD that my mind wanders all the time, but jumping in the ice cold sea, especially in December you can't think of anything other than the water.
Mark Twain famously said that if the first thing you do in the morning is eat a live frog, you can go through the rest of the day knowing the worst is behind you. Your frog is your worst task, and you should do it first thing in the morning.
The same can be said by doing things that no one else is doing, for example jumping in the sea when the temperature is -7 degrees Celsius and the water is nearly icing over. There is a weird sense of accomplishment of doing something that no one else is doing, it makes you feel a lot better about yourself.
This same Tik Toker who I follow also mentioned a brilliant point that resonates with me massively.
"Life is quite counter intuitive, when you see massive crowds of people you tend to want to go where those crowds of people are going because apparently something interesting is going on. The majority of the time there isn't, go to the places there's not many people, its usually because it is difficult to do, its too early to do it or it's too cold, If you want to stand out from the crowd you need to do things the crowd aren't willing to do."
This made me think about this year, trying to go and do the things that others think are strange, or different, or go against traditional norms. If you look around you, everyone you know is climbing the ladders of life, trying their hardest to get to the highest rung on the ladder, of whatever ladder that may be.
In James Smith's newest best selling book - Not a Life Coach, he challenges readers to look around them and ensure that whatever ladder they are trying to climb, that they are confident that it is actually the right ladder.
Think about this for just for a second... "It doesn't matter how high you climb, if you get the top and find out you have climbed the wrong ladder." This is one of the biggest reasons I am documenting and traveling at the moment, because I have been there myself working my bollocks off, climbing as high as I can go, to later find out, I was climbing the wrong ladder.
So whilst I am sat in the airport waiting area reminiscing about this year, I challenge you to make sure you are in charge of your own compass, and you aren't mindlessly wandering through life, climbing the predetermined ladder that you think is right for you. I'd hate for you to do what I did and burn yourself out realizing that you are climbing the wrong ladder with the wrong values. ... It doesn't matter how far you go if you are going in the wrong direction. So as I'm rushing to get this post finished before I lose wifi and board my flight back to the UK, I challenge you to look around you and make sure you are climbing the right ladder.
It may even take a little ice cold December dip, to make you see things a little clearer.
It has definitely helped me in the past!
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