Welcome to Chapter 3 of Dan Bennett - The Diary of a Bored Kid!
Welcome to Chapter 3 of the Diary of a Bored Kid! Thanks for joining me again.
Todays article, is an important one and one that I have been umm'ing and arr'ing about posting.
The picture attached is October 2019, so not that long ago. I had just finished a 2 week Work Business Trip in Hong Kong, and had roughly worked on average 15 hour days, for 2 weeks straight without a day off. Safe to say I was absolutely wrecked.
Welcome back to my story. The story of a 24 year old who finds himself chasing the bag ($$$) at the neglect of his health, happiness and personal relationships...
For me, I had a big personality shift when I was roughly 14-15 years old thinking that Money was going to be the stem of all of my future happiness. I had argued at an earlier age that if I could play League 7 Professional football in Lithuania, I would have been happy waking up playing football everyday. Before I knew it, this was thrown out the window as my younger friendship group convinced me that the goal should be to make as much money as you can possibly make, so you could do whatever you wanted.
Needless to say, at 24 that's the direction my life had gone in. Turned down chasing the professional soccer career, and turned my attention at 24 to making as much money I possibly could at the expense of my health, happiness and personal relationships.
Knowing what I know now? Money doesn't make you happy. Fulfillment of your job makes you happy.
Waking up in a constant state of stress, anxiety, dealing with dickhead people for the sake of a bigger pay check is no way to live, and although I am now glad that my environment has changed, I would not have changed anything that has happened over the course of the past 2 years.
The fundamental life lessons that I have learned over the last 2 years are lessons that will be instilled into my future kids, and are lessons that I think the large majority of people need to learn sooner than they inevitably will.
Now, I'm not telling you to all quit your jobs and go and follow a passion for bee keeping knowing that you'd be happier. But you should definitely question the environment you have built for yourself. If your environment is toxic, and you're stressed, anxious and you are accepting of this knowing that you are getting a nice pay check, then you need to question if your values are in the right place.
Maybe you have built a life for yourself that you cannot move away from. Those were the questions that I had to answer when I decided to change my environment. 1 step back, 3 steps forward.
Waking up with peace of mind is priceless and turning my attention to my key values has caused a dramatic positive effect on my health and fulfillment. I am also confident that following key personal principles and values will have a dramatic long term positive effect on my bank account. Although, it is important to remove yourself from negative environments, it's also important to remember you need to be able to survive and afford basic fundamental lifestyle needs. Don't jump off the plank if you know you cant swim on the other end.
If I could instill any advice to anyone is question the environment you are in. Environments are so important because they will effect 90% of your daily habits. You are a living representation of your habits. You need to feel happy and fulfilled in your environment and be passionate about what you are doing. Don't follow the money and think you'll find passion afterwards. It doesn't work like that, you become unhappy, unsatisfied and extremely stressed. Trust me I've been there. No. Instead, start with the passion, build the environment you want, build healthy positive habits. Rinse. Repeat. This will cause success. This is what causes fulfillment and this is what causes long term positive mental and financial health.
Of course there are going to be bad days and stressful days, but as a whole you need to be content in the environment you have built for yourself - From relationships to the workplace. Find / build the right environment for yourself to give yourself the best opportunity to build the lifestyle you want.
If you don't build the right environment, someone else will build it for you.
I'll wrap this up and keep this a fairly short post - I believe you need to have a passion and value for what you are doing on a daily basis. If you work from a value based perspective then you can never be unfulfilled with the line of work you are in as it will always be in line with your personal values - This was one of the biggest mistakes I have made over the years is where I focussed on the benefits rather than the values and mission for what I am working towards.
I think oftentimes the Western world puts an emphasis on Formal Education to then apply for a job in the Corporate world and before you know a huge chunk of your life is taken up and designed by an outside entity whose value and mission may not marry up to your own. I would suggest no matter what job / line of work you do, you should always take heed of your own personal values and needs, and make sure that your employer is fully in line with those same values. If not you risk being a 24 year old Bored Kid. And no one wants that.
Thank you once again for reading!