Welcome to Chapter 7 of Dan Bennett - The Diary of a Bored Kid!
Welcome to Miami!
So this week I am back with my Serbian brother "Kica" couch-surfing in the heart of The Downtown Magic city. The big 26 was on Sunday and to say the hangover was bad was an understatement. Beers, Wine, Tequila, Mezcal, Vodka - To be completely honest I blacked out roughly around 3am, awoke to the sound of Jord throwing up and personally was in a horrendous state for the next 2 days! Not the best start to 26!
Sitting there feeling like utter dog sh** had me reflecting and thinking about how I had spent the past few weeks.
Recently I have been doing a lot of reading, listening to a lot of podcasts, meeting a bunch of new people, experiencing new food and new cities. This combined with living with the Serbian crew for the past week and watching how those from a completely different culture and background all interact and live their life has really made me want to lead today with a topic that I think will resonate with a lot of people.
"Getting out of your comfort zone."
Before I begin, I am going to put my hands up and admit that I am one of those who is often very happy staying in my comfort zone. Whatever that may be.
However, I also think it is extremely important to have the self awareness to know when your comfort zone is holding you back from living a more fulfilled and positive life.
Comfort zones transcend boundaries. Comfort zones can be anything - Staying home instead of going out to meet new people, not applying for that new job because your current job is easy and comfortable, not putting yourself out there to try and date that new guy / girl, staying in a team because you are happy being the big fish in the small pond, continuing to do the home work-outs because you are afraid of getting into a new gym environment.
Comfort Zones are a universal issue and something that I think take a huge amount of self awareness to assess and take action to change.
The Comfort Zone is a place where dreams go to die, and where it is very easy to wake up 10 years down the line and question the life you have built for yourself.
Speaking personally, I'd rather wake up 10 years down the line and say I actively chose my life, rather than wake up saying I settled for my life.
Leaning off one of my biggest motivators in this space for this blog post.. In step Steven Bartlett.
Steven is the 27 year old former CEO and founder of Social Chain one of the worlds largest Social Media Agencies. With revenue roughly in the region of $200 million it's safe to say the guy is a genius and a huge pioneer in the online digital marketing space. Steven is a huge inspiration to me and has had a profound effect on how I will run my future businesses.
Earlier this year Steven released the Podcast "The Certainty of Unexpected Chaos."
The podcast looked in-depth into the madness of 2020 and how COVID-19 has thrown a huge spanner in the works for so many people and how oftentimes in life you just have to roll with the punches. As is with all aspects of life there is always going to be unexpected chaos, and more often than not it is how you deal with the unexpected chaos that really defines a person.
Relating this to todays post - You know where there is very little "unexpected chaos?" - In your Comfort Zone. It is safe, you feel reassured and relaxed, paddling in the calm and easy waters. But unfortunately, that's not what ships were built for.
There needs to be a fundamental understanding that stepping out of your comfort zones means there are going to be uncertainties, scary and intimidating moments - But stepping out of your Comfort Zone is where the magic happens.
It is where you meet the girl, you build the business, you get the new job, you build the gym body. So on and so forth. Bit cheesy I know but it's true.
NY Times best selling author Tim Ferris says it best; "For all of the most important things, the timing always sucks. Waiting for a good time to quit your job? The stars will never align and the traffic lights of life will never all be green at the same time. The universe doesn't conspire against you, but it doesn't go out of its way to line up the pins either. Conditions are never perfect. "Someday" is a disease that will take your dreams to the grave with you. Pro and con lists are just as bad. If it's important to you and you want to do it "eventually," just do it and correct course along the way."
Wrapping up this post - Step out of your comfort zone. It's scary. It's new. It's intimidating. Who knows? It may not even work out. But if you are anything like me you would much rather say, "Oh well" than "What if."
As always - Thank you for reading!