Welcome to Chapter 29 of Dan Bennett - The Diary of a Bored Kid!
It's been a while since I've donned a pair of football boots. It's been a while since I've kicked a ball around. But as I'm back in the UK, Covid restrictions have been lifted (somewhat) teamsports are officially permitted, I thought it was only right to pull my socks up and start playing again for a local team.
To be honest, I thought I was done with the game. I didn't think I'd ever play again. I didn't think I ever wanted to play again. I'd turned my back on that chapter of my life and was looking at new things; traveling, opening my business, exploring new cities, so on so forth.
Funny thing is though, I've realized that the fun hasn't changed. From playin in front of 100's to playing in front of one man and his dog, the fun hasn't stopped.
Obviously, there are exceptions it was nice playing on pristine pitches, sun shining, tanning oil on etc etc, but the fun of playing on a park pitch with jumpers for goalposts (slight exaggeration) you can't beat it.
There is a guy I follow on social media and really respect his journey. He made a post a while back saying that your enjoyment of something is completely dependent on you.
For example, if you said to yourself you are only a success if you played the highest level of a sport, then the chances are if you never made that level, then you were automatically going to be disappointed with the outcome.
In Jiu Jitsu, if you said you are only ever going to be happy once you get to your black belt, well you end up not enjoying the process of all the training sessions that its going to take you to get to the black belt.
This is something I never really understood growing up, my success was only ever dependent on a) How I played b) What level I was playing.
I ended up not enjoying what I was doing because I only cared about those two things. I ended up taking all the enjoyment out of it, because I wasn't playing a so called "higher level."
What I've learned now, playing on a park pitch, no pressure, with a bunch of my mates, some middle aged men, some younger than myself, is that since I've been removed from the sport for a few years, my love of the game never changed. The way I had started to see the game had changed.
The game never changes, it's you, kicking a ball about, competing against a bunch of other people.
I've switched my thinking now to be more around enjoyment of the actual activity, and to be honest you can't beat it.
You can decide the level of success something means to you.
Just because you aren't playing in the premiership or building the next google or Facebook means nothing.
I've learned by constantly comparing myself to the top .000001% is a sure fire way to leave myself feeling deflated and disappointed.
I'll leave you with that today, because I know many people who like myself, end up taking the enjoyment out of something because of "wanting more." "wanting to be at a higher level of something." - Completely forgetting that the enjoyment in the process is what is going to allow you to get to a higher level.
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