Welcome to Chapter 9 of Dan Bennett - The Diary of a Bored Kid
Hello and welcome back!
It's been a busy couple of weeks - I have been in Miami, then back to St Petersburg to spend time with the Mrs and her friends, now I am on the other side of St Pete back with Jord - back to training and chilling everyday. I'm currently sat at a lovely little restaurant downtown - 'Stillwaters Tavern' sipping coffee and writing to you - I highly recommend.
So for those that do not know anything about me... I am a secret reader. I love books! Personal development specifically.
I love diving into these books and then recommending these to my friends, I love helping them to see things in a different way that they may have not seen before. Learning off those who are where I want to be - I get a huge kick out of it. A lot of this reading has even heavily influenced this blog, it has made me see the world in a very different way to the norm and for that I am very happy. James Caan serial entrepreneur and famous Dragon from the BBC show Dragons Den - The UK equivalent to Shark Tank - says it best... "Observe the masses, and do the opposite." It is exactly for this reason why I try and read and get through so many personal development and business books, I try to learn off those who are where I want to be. It is very easy to listen to those around you, but if those people aren't where you want to be then why on Earth would you want to listen to them?
Smile politely, thank them for their opinion and get your head back down and get on with the work that you think is going to benefit people.
Currently I have been diving balls deep into Gary Vee's Crushing It. I won't dive too much into the content, as I would eventually like to release a book review blog where I talk through my favorite key takeaways from many leading authors.. Anyway, reading Gary Vee has led me to writing this blog post today.
"Walking the plank."
In particular the fear of walking the plank;
How scary and intimidating is it performing an exercise, an activity, a challenge knowing that at any moment you might fall or fail, or look like an idiot, or be ridiculed by those around you?
If you are anything like me - I bet this could be one of your biggest barriers to trying to attempt new things. The fear of the opinions of those around you. It is because of this exact reason that I feel in the earlier stages of my life I didn't reach the successes that I had aspired to as I was so heavily influenced by those around me, both positively and negatively.
This was exactly me today - I very hesitantly published my first daily Vlog on Snapchat where I wanted to share what I was doing, wish some good positive energy to people and to help anyone whoever may need someone to talk too.
Not going to lie to you - The self doubt and worry of being ridiculed was very real. Who am I to be posting a vlog? Whether the content was good or not was indifferent, I was so scared of what those on my snapchat might think of me. I was imagining the stick I was going to get in my group chat for publishing a vlog and doing something out of the ordinary.
Sometimes you just have to "walk the plank" - and have the confidence that you can swim on the other side.
Much of my content is about mindset and development and that's what I did today.. I took a risk. I may have looked like a dick, I am fairly sure I did.
It took approximately 27 minutes before the group chat started going off saying "What on earth are you doing??" The way I see it though is if you always fall to the peel pressure around you then you are ultimately always going to be living life on someone else's terms and thats not what I want to personally be about.
Thats not why I am writing this blog.
I created this platform to give those who are in toxic environments and want change in their life, I want to give those people the confidence to know that they can get out of those environments and inevitably build and design the life they want for themself.
James Clear, NY Times Best Selling Author raises a very good point to this exact story;
"If what you write on your paper doesn’t meet someone else’s expectations … it is no concern of yours. The way someone else perceives what you do is a result of their own experiences (which you can’t control), their own tastes and preferences (which you can’t predict), and their own expectations (which you don’t set). If your choices don’t match their expectations that is their concern, not yours." "Your concern is to do the work, not to judge it. Your concern is to fall in love with the process, not to grade the outcome. Keep your eyes on your own paper."
Bringing this back to where I am - sometimes you just have to shut the outside noise off, get your head down, do the work, write the post, post the pic, build the business, speak to the girl/guy, leave the job and book the trip.
If you are always so paralyzed about what everyone else is going to think and are so scared of falling into the water and not being able to swim. Then don't be surprised when years down the line you are still where you don't want to be.
Wrapping up todays post - Sometimes you just have to walk the plank and know that you will swim on the other side. If you are always doing everything for the benefit of someone else, when are you going to live your life and do what you want to do?
Take a second when you get the chance and think of all the things you do for you. If you can't think of anything, then it might be time to reevaluate.
Focus on yourself and the rest will follow.
As always! It's been real!