Welcome to Chapter 6 of Dan Bennett - The Diary of a Bored Kid!
Hello and welcome back to The Diary of a Bored Kid. Chapter 6.
I’m now travelling down in Florida to see some of the lads from my College Soccer team – The game plan - wake up, chill, train, write, bev, sunbathe, sightsee, rinse and repeat. It’s been a good week!
Now on route to Miami to do pretty much the exact same! It’s my 26th Birthday on Sunday and to be honest with you I’m not quite sure how I feel about it.
It’s a weird one – Would I have thought that at 26 I would be travelling and blogging? Maybe. The game plan was always to travel. But for some reason I never quite thought I would be doing so in the middle of a Global Pandemic. Oh well such is life and here we are. All we can do is make the most of it.
Not going to lie, Jord had to drag me out the house last night for drinks – I was comfy on the couch and the thought of diving into a new TV show seemed better than going and diving headfirst into a bunch of Tequila. Needless to say, he got me out and we had an unreal night. Sometimes you just need the little push to not be a lazy F***** and get out and go and be social.
Anyway - this brings me on to this week’s Blog Post – “you win some you lose some.” – I love this analogy because although everyone loses - no one ever goes into a venture, relationship, investment, business opportunity, sporting event wanting to lose. Such is life that the person who wins Gold and the person who comes last both have the same goals. Neither want to lose but inevitably one will.
Last night is a prime example – You win some you lose some. You know how many crap nights out I have had where I have questioned why I ever came out the house? Absolutely plenty. Last night could have been exactly that – But you know what, you’ll never know if you don’t try. Instead, we had a class night!
Diving into this deeper - Looking at some of my former relationships, did I expect them to fail? Nope – I’d argue that if you were going into relationships knowing they were going to fail then you probably have some deep-rooted issues that you may need to handle, either way going into something and wanting to lose probably isn’t common.
Did I think that going into my former job I would eventually quit and leave? Nope. - going into year 2 I was buzzing, pay rise, more money, more benefits, life was going to be cushtyyyy – I was excited – But things change and you have to change the course as you go.
The issue in failing is that failing is often demonized and frowned upon. Society demonizes failure as the worst possible thing that can happen to you.
Social media today is a highlight reel and people rarely post failures. Everything is filtered, framed, brightened, tightened, new cars, new jobs, new holidays, new travel adventures.
No one posts failures. Why would they? Who wants to see you fail?
We have denormalized very normal things and this is a key problem.
Everyone fails. This week and this year I have failed 100’s of times. Today I was trying to upload my first Podcast to Spotify – Failed spectacularly. Accidentally deleted my original file, tried to retake it 30-50 times. Each try was shitter than the last.
Fail fast and fail often – That’s all you can do!
I found out today that a big investment deal that I was going to put a large chunk of my capital into will inevitably fall through…. Not ideal.
Could I go into a big mood? Yes.
Could I be pissed that months of planning will be wasted? Easily.
Will I? Probably not.
So this brings us back to today’s title; “You win some you lose some.” Don’t get frustrated with the failures, and don’t live off the successes. Take everything with a pinch of salt, try and improve what you can, perfection doesn’t exist, and 1% progress gets you 1 step closer to the end goal.
Can’t expect to win everything, and you never lose you only learn – Thank you Coach Kavanagh. (Connor McGregor’s Coach for those that don’t know the reference)
A close friend of mine who plays professional baseball has a batting % .30 that basically means out of every 10 pinches, he hits 3.
A 30% success rate in his field is considered a high level of success – Remember you can’t hit homeruns all the time, no matter how easy society makes it seem.
To wrap this story up – You won’t win everything, and you’ll never win anything if you don’t start.
Take everything with a pinch of salt – Oftentimes failure proceeds success.
Stick to your process, analyze your environment, keep learning what you can to improve, keep the good people in your life close and inevitably everything will be alright.
Here’s to 26!